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8 Ways to Address Your Child’s Challenging Behavior

Camp Kupugani, our overnight summer camp located on 125 acres in Northwest Illinois (near Chicago and Madison, Wisconsin), is a camp where everyone is accepted for who they are, while still being challenged to become a better person. As a parent (and camp director), I can appreciate how it can be a challenge to maximize your child’s behavior and choices. 

Indeed, children (as do we as adults) sometimes exhibit behaviors that are not ideal for their development. Read below for a few ways to help your child learn more positive behaviors. Bullets below, with the full article here

  • Lead with empathy and connection.
    • Try to learn where the not-great behavior is coming from. 
    • Try and connect with an issue you have faced in your own experience.
  • Borrow tactics from negotiation.
    • Pick your battles.
    • Look at interest rather than a position.
  • Talk above their age or maturity level.
    • Set the expectations based on age and maturity level.
    • Give them the responsibility that they can handle.
  • Focus more on relating than teaching.
    • Connect first, teach second.
    • Share your frustration about when an incident happens.
  • Be intentional with vocal tone and language.
    • Use “task-tone”.
    • Keep yourself calm.
  • Teach them how to recover from mistakes.
    • Help your children repair any harm they have done.
      • Apologize.
      • Fix/pay for the broken item.
    • Consequences should be logical and restorative.
  • Help them connect their emotions to behavior.
    • All behaviors come from somewhere.
    • Teach self-regulation techniques.
  • Examine unmet expectations.
    • Ask questions rather than make assumptions.
    • The child is your partner in the process. 

Source Article: Washington Post

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