7 Tips on How to Have Emotionally Intelligent Disagreements
Camp Kupugani is our sleepaway Midwest summer camp, located close to both Chicago, IL and Madison, WI. Part of our mission is to facilitate and develop effective conflict resolution techniques with our community. This article from Barking Up The Wrong Tree discusses ways to have emotional intelligent disagreements. Check out our takeaways below and/or read the full article here.
Remember The Relationship
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Enemies don’t say, “You are right. I am wrong.” Friends do.
De-Escalate
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If your disputes sound snarky, you’re doing it wrong.
Stop Trying To Control What They Think Or Feel
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When their autonomy is threatened, people attack or shut down.
Help Them Make Their Argument Stronger
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If you can’t disprove the best version of their argument, then you’re not “right”, you’re just playing tricks. And, more importantly, “steelmanning” shows you’re listening and that you’re sincere.
Disrupt The Script
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Constructive conversations have ups and downs. De-escalate tension. Make a joke or say something positive.
Get Curious
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So those aliens that talk to you, do they give good advice?
Help Them Question Their Own Thinking
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Therapists don’t say: “That’s ridiculous. Where in your brain did the stroke occur for you to have an idea so stupid?” No, they ask questions until you start to question your own thinking.
Source Article: https://www.bakadesuyo.com/2021/10/conflict/